Helping Parents Coach, Coaches Coach and Players Play
Have you ever seen a player make an error, mental mistake or strike out? Well of course you have. And how often have you seen player’s entire body language change after doing so? You know….they hang their head and look as if they’re about to cry. I’m sure you’ve seen that too. They’re having a Pity Party.
I first heard this expression from one of my daughter’s travel coaches (John W.) and it has stuck with me since. As a parent I was fortunate not to suffer through any of my daughters behaving this way. But as a coach I’ve seen it repeatedly over the years. The million dollar question is how do you stop players from having one?
Negative news sells. Hence the expression, “If it bleeds, it leads.” Stories of outrageous behavior grab and hold our attention. We’ve been classically conditioned all of our lives to react this way. Visit any of the major news websites at any point in time and read the top 5 headlines. 99% of it is nothing but the bad and the ugly. Well, this article is about the good.
I have really been looking forward to writing this post. Maybe my last article, Surviving One of those Softball Seasons, tipped you off? While I won't go into the details of my survival as a coach of the 2015 varsity softball season, I just want to see if each of you might make similar decisions that we made as coaches. How? First, I'll provide you with the team's stats from the first half of the season and ask you to make a lineup. Then, I'll show you some lineups we actually used through that point of the season. Second, I'll give you the final stats for the team and again ask you to make another lineup. Then, I'll show you a couple more lineups we actually used.
I won't use any of the players names. They'll be listed as Player A, Player B, Player C, etc. along with their stats. I'll provide you with a few extra details such as positioning, injuries, potential substitution issues and other things you must be aware of when making lineups. So....Are you ready to give it a shot?
The picture on right is me during a game talking with the head coach, which was likely a conversation that went like this: "Ok. Player X is 0-2...swung at 2 balls in the dirt & 1 over her head, then took called 3rd strike right down the middle.....lt's the 6th inning...let's give player Z a shot to pinch hit." These are situations I've literally seen members of the peanut gallery flip out over after seeing what substitution we made.
You take your daughter weekly for lessons after work on Tuesday nights for pitching or hitting. It costs from $35 to $65 per half hour and may be a lengthy drive from home. You do this throughout the fall and winter racking up the miles and money spent. You and your daughter practice what she’s learning at home, school or a local softball facility, which might even cost you more money. And after all that time and money you and your daughter realize that she just doesn’t seem to be getting any better. How can this be?
You are frustrated that you’ve wasted so much time and money to the point that you feel like you’ve been ripped off. Maybe you decide to seek out another instructor? Meanwhile you tell everybody in your softball circle that you stopped going to that instructor, because he/she didn't help your daughter one bit. Does this scenario sound familiar?
It's February and it's the last month before High School Tryouts (in Michigan - March 9th). And the closer to judgment day we get, the more girls suddenly appear wanting to work on their games. These girls fit into two categories: Some play a winter sport making it difficult or impossible to practice softball - or - the social players finally found some free time in their busy schedules. Regardless, scheduling 4-player workouts becomes a challenge for coaches trying to be fair. This article describes the issues a coach has to consider when scheduling and conducting off-season work outs.
**Note** I wrote in detail about the mixture of social and serious players in Levels of the Game: School Softball.
- Earning Playing Time
- Success is a Continuous Journey
- Travel Softball Insights - A Coach's Perspective
- In an Instance I Forgot About Everything that was Troubling Me
- Why I Coach - Giving Back
- No, I'm Just Her Coach
- No Apologies - Getting Players in the Games
- The Day I Quit Cheering for my Daughter
- The Proper Perspective & Humility
- The Little Things A Coach Sees